Nevertheless, Chinese parent’s attitudes to family education are different from what American parents think about education。 Parents in China value family education highly because they believe that family education is the foundation of a family, no matter how busy they are, they will educate their children with the core idea that parents are the leader at and outside their home。 Thus, Chinese parents put family education on the first place than other things。
3。2 Different modes of family education
3。2。1 Money spending
America's children are likely to seek economic independence as soon as possible, but Chinese children tend to spend their parent’s money at no allowance。 As we can see in the movie Boyhood, the character Mason earns money by washing dishes in a restaurant when he is a student of high school。 He even uses his salary to visit his sister’s university without any financial support from his parents。
So American children always try their best to achieve their independence on money so that they could spend less of their parent’s hard-earned money。 Besides, most of them also think that economic independence can make them less guilty of spending their parents' money, and they don't want to be influenced by their parents' financial support for their lives。 As a result, it is important for them to rely on their own hands to make money to feed themselves。
Instead, Chinese parents do not limit the amount of money that children spend in daily life, they satisfy the requirements of their children in all aspects。 Nowadays, a troop of younger generation called “Moonlights” is growing bigger and bigger, these young people would spend all of their wages at the beginning of every month, they won’t worry about money in that they are used to asking for money from parents。 Parents want to create the best living conditions for their children instead of making their life on their children’s own, which will result in strong reliance on the parents of their financial support, children will develop a bad habit of turning to their parents for money, rather than making money themselves to meet their own needs。
3。2。2 Study论文网
In America, parents do not pay much attention to children's grades in school; however, in China, learning is more important than anything。 In the film Boyhood, Mason do not study hard in school, he always spreads his focus on other places in class, and does not hand in his homework on time。 His mother does not blame him when she knows his bad behavior in the school, instead, she just talks to Mason so that she could understand her son’s thoughts。 This movie reflects that most American parents pay less attention to their children’s grades, and they put less learning pressure on children。
American parents usually respect their children's wishes and choices, they do not emphasize the authority of parents, family education is democratic and open。 Parents usually decide on a variety of issues that are closely related to their children by means of equal consultation。 They think that good grades do not mean their children can rise head and shoulders above others, the children's comprehensive ability is much more important than good grades。
However, in China, learning requirements that parents put on the children are very high even up to a degree of rigor。 The idea of exam-oriented education has been deeply rooted among Chinese parents from earliest times to the present times。 As a result, parents view whether the children’s grades can obtain higher education or not as the sole criterion, they educate their children according to the standard of genius as long as their children were born。 In recent years, more and more primary and secondary school students can not bear the pressure of study and choose to commit suicide, parents attach great importance to the grades, they continue to put pressure on their children, and ultimately cause tragedies。 So study is the most important part of Chinese children’s life, and children have become a learning machine for parents’ showing off。